The first few Christmases after a separation can feel daunting. Traditions that once felt familiar may seem difficult to face, and creating new memories might seem overwhelming. However, moving forward and embracing change can open the door to a new chapter filled with warmth, joy, and personal fulfillment.

We spoke to other separated couples and compiled their top tips on how to renew the holiday season with positivity and a fresh outlook.

1. Create new traditions

Whether it’s having Christmas with friends or creating an alternative celebration with your kids when you’re not with them on the actual day, new traditions can become the highlights of your holiday. 

2. Plan your time

If you are nervous about spending time alone, plan activities for each day—coffee with a friend, a local event, or a class. Having a reason to get out and enjoy something everyday.

3. Alternative shopping options

Avoid the stress of crowded shopping centers by supporting local businesses with click-and-collect or delivery options. Attending local Christmas and handmade markets can be a fun and festive activity, too.

4. Self-care

Exercise, take a relaxing bubble bath, have a facial day with some friends, meditate, or indulge in a spa day. Taking care of your well-being is essential for reducing stress and finding moments of joy during the holidays. Find some more tips in our self care blog.

5. Plan a trip

Consider planning a getaway, even if it's a short one. Exploring a new place or revisiting a favorite destination can help reset your mindset and create new memories.

6. Christmas movie marathon

Sometimes, laughter is the best medicine. Curl up with classic Christmas comedies or dive into the world of light-hearted, tacky Hallmark movies for a mood boost. Find our top festive flicks here. Link – Family friendly. Link – adult laughs

7. Relax with a good read

Take this time to dive into that book you've been meaning to read. It’s a perfect way to unwind and create a cozy, quiet escape from the holiday rush. Here are some great light holiday reads. Link

8. Budget-friendly fun

Rediscover your city and learn to love where you live. Visit iconic places, explore hidden gems, and be a tourist in your own town to create fresh experiences. 

Embrace activities that don’t break the bank—think Christmas lights, holiday-themed movie nights, or festive picnics with friends.

9. Volunteer your time

Helping others is a great way to find joy and perspective. Consider volunteering to a cause that is close to your heart where you can make a positive difference in your community. Here is a list of places you can volunteer at in Canberra. Link

10. Declutter your space

Take advantage of the holiday break to cull items that no longer serve you. Studies have shown that decluttering can help release emotional baggage and aid in moving forward. Read more here. Link

11. Get into nature

Step outside and embrace the peace that nature offers. Whether it’s a walk in the bush, a picnic by the lake, or a morning run, nature can provide a sense of calm and renewal during a potentially emotional time.

Recreating your Christmas experience after a separation can be an opportunity to discover new joys and meaningful traditions. By exploring new activities and embracing the present, you can transform the season into a time of self-renewal, connection, and hope.